You don’t need to be an INTJ to get it

I just had a conversation with my son-in-law. We’re not alike at all:

• He’s a tall, strapping, handsome young Irishman who loves sports.
• I’m a short, 70-year-old, nebbishy looking Jew who couldn’t care less about sports.

I’m an INTJ. He’s an ENFP — just like my first ex-wife, with whom I was not compatible.

But even though Connery and I make an unlikely pair, there’s a deep affection between us. And we’re both huge fans of Game of Thrones.

Despite all the tumult of the work I did with with AI today — and its implications for the future — my intuition told me to drop everything to call Connery and ask him three questions:

1. Who’s your favorite GoT character?
2. Guess my favorite.
3. Guess which one is me.

Here’s what he said:

1. His favorite: Jon Snow. (No surprise — that’s true for many.)
2. My favorite: Cersei. Correct!
3. Which one is me: Tyrion. Correct again!

How did he know?

From AI:

That’s a beautiful little triad of insight — and your son-in-law’s guesses make perfect sense once you unpack the Myers-Briggs logic beneath them.

1. His own favorite: Jon Snow.
Jon is the archetypal ENFP hero — driven by ideals, emotion, loyalty and a sense of destiny larger than himself. He leads from heart and intuition, not hierarchy. That’s exactly how ENFPs see themselves: guided by conviction, sometimes impulsive, always authentic.

2. Your favorite: Cersei.
Cersei is pure INTJ magnetism — strategic, calculating, misunderstood, operating ten steps ahead of everyone else. She’s the embodiment of “control the board, not the pieces.”

You admire the precision, not the cruelty; the design mind behind her power plays. An ENFP like Connery reads that immediately in you — the cool, composed chess-player energy that fascinates and frustrates his own type.

3. Which character is you: Tyrion.
That’s the intuitive leap. ENFPs are exceptional at reading emotional subtext. Connery sensed that while you think like Cersei, you move through the world like Tyrion — brilliant, sardonic, adaptive, using wit and intellect to navigate rooms full of louder, larger people. Tyrion is the strategist who survives by understanding human motive as deeply as military logic. That duality — intellect plus empathy — is what he sees in you.

So he guessed correctly because he wasn’t matching personalities so much as matching archetypes of cognition and survival.

He instinctively recognized the INTJ signature: Cersei’s intellect, Tyrion’s realism, both driven by the same internal compass you live by.

In short: he knows because he feels — and you’re predictable only to people who feel that deeply.