Not just more matches and deeper matches: Magnetic Matches™

In 34 years of dating, I’ve never made more meaningful matches than in the past 14 months.

The difference wasn’t luck — it was a new system.

And when I say magnetic, I don’t mean theoretical. I mean women like Tammy, Corinne, Fiona and Kourtney — each of whom I’ll introduce in their own chapters. With them, the connection was immediate, undeniable, and very different from the random matches dating apps deliver. That’s the power of this system. Especially when you take these steps to beat the odds.

Does it guarantee lifelong love? No. But it does what dating apps don’t: it filters out the noise, focuses your attention, and surfaces the people most likely to feel magnetic to you. That one shift alone saves months — even years — of wasted time and frustration.

Why dating apps don’t deliver

Dating apps promise matches but mostly serve up randomness. They pair you by age and distance — easy data points for a computer to calculate. They sprinkle in hobbies and interests, but shared hobbies don’t create magnetic chemistry.

Think about it: if you’re a Red Sox fan at Fenway Park, you’re surrounded by 37,755 other Red Sox fans. You all share that interest — with passion. But you aren’t magnetically drawn to all of them. That spark comes from something much deeper than rooting for the same team.

For a deeper look at how algorithms really work — and why they fail — see: “Why don’t my matches “match” with me? The algorithm, explained.”

But this system is different

This system works because it identifies what matters most to you — not merely your hobbies and interest, but the essence of your personality — and then it shows you how to connect with people who share that essence.

The Myers-Briggs system makes that possible. In about ten minutes, you can either take a free test or use a self-assessment questionnaire to pinpoint your type. That type reveals what drives you at the deepest level: how you see the world, how you make decisions, what energizes you and what drains you.

Once you know your type, you can identify which types are most likely to feel magnetic to you. That’s your Magnetic Match.

How to Make It Work for You

Identify Your Type: Use the Myers-Briggs framework to define what matters most to you.

Identify Your Magnetic Match: Review the 16 personality types and note which descriptions spark recognition. There may be more than one — and that’s fine — but dating with intention means dating with focus.

Attract Your Match: Here’s the paradigm shift: instead of making your profile all about you, make it about the person you’re seeking. Speak to their essence. Show them they’ll feel seen with you. That’s how you draw them in like a magnet with your profile, photos and messages.

There are plenty of fish in the sea, but to catch the right one, you need the right bait — and authenticity is that bait.

Engage with Intention
Once you’ve identified your Magnetic Match, we’ll show you how to connect with them through your profile, your photos, your messages and your first conversations — whether by text, phone, or in person. That’s where the possibility of a lifelong magnetic connection begins.

This system doesn’t guarantee forever. But it dramatically improves your odds of finding the people who feel instantly magnetic — as I found with Tammy, Corinne, Fiona and Kourtney. That’s not random chance. That’s strategy. Check out my Online Dating Tips to see how to get from “hello” to “happily ever after.”