Attract the person who feels magnetic to you

Online dating sucked until I discovered the secret code — the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator. I realized attraction isn’t about promoting yourself. It’s about drawing in the one who feels magnetic to you.

My type’s intensity wasn’t an obstacle — it was an advantage.

And you have the same advantage.

Because every one of the 16 Myers-Briggs types has its own magnetism, making it a useful key to unlocking online dating.

To see what I mean, start with the chapter about Tammy and the passion we shared — or the chapter about Corinne and our whirlwind romance.

Each relationship taught me lessons I couldn’t have learned any other way.

This is the first time I’ve written them down, with practical steps — such as How to spot your Magnetic Match — that you can use to find your person faster–especially if you take these steps to beat the odds.

Start by identifying your own Myers-Briggs type, then your Magnetic Match’s type. That’s the paradigm shift: instead of making your profile about you, make it about the person you’re seeking — so they’re drawn to you like a magnet.

There are plenty of fish in the sea, but to catch the one you want, you need the right bait — while still being true to yourself because authenticity is essential.

Over three decades of scrolling and swiping, I dated women across the MBTI spectrum — INFJs, INTJs, INFPs, ENFPs, ESTJs, ESFPs and more.

Yep, there are plenty of fish in the sea. So jump in. Because the water’s fine :)

But I’m not a medical professional. I have no clinical training. Everything here is merely my opinion based on first-hand experience. In other words, your mileage may vary ;)

But everything here really happened. All names and a few details have been changed, and some characters are composites, but the underlying truths abide.