3) How to write a profile that attracts your MagneticMatch

Most dating apps keep things painfully short. Bumble, Tinder, Hinge — they’re designed for speed, not depth. A few hundred characters, maybe a sentence or two, and that’s all you get.

The logic is simple: the easier it is to sign up, the more people join. But that brevity comes at a cost. If you have more to say — if you believe it takes more than a clever one-liner and a selfie to convey what matters — you’ll find yourself constrained.

That’s why size matters — at least when it comes to the size of your profile. If you have a lot to share, or even if you just want enough space to reflect your values and vision, consider using Match.com.

Even if you’re not a natural writer, a platform that lets you stretch out gives you room to highlight what really counts: what you want, what you value, and what will resonate with your Magnetic Match.

Write for Your Magnetic Match

Before you put down a single word, take a step back. Your goal isn’t to write a profile that appeals to everyone. It’s to write a profile that calls out to one kind of person: your Magnetic Match.

IMPORTANT: You’re calibrating your signal so it actually reaches them.

That means doing your homework. Revisit the in-depth description of your Magnetic Match’s type. Read the relationship analysis that explores how your type pairs with theirs. Sit with it. Absorb what matters most to them — their values, their fears, the qualities they light up around.

Only after you’ve internalized that should you begin writing. Because your profile isn’t just about you — it’s a beacon. The more you write with your Magnetic Match in mind, the more they’ll feel like you’re already speaking their language.

The Blueprint: Core Tasks

Think of your profile as a blueprint. Just as you wouldn’t walk into random houses without knowing your budget, style, and location, you shouldn’t jump into dating without clarity.

Here are the steps that bring structure and substance to your profile, combining both the foundational blueprint and the design principles that make words come alive:

Define your core values

Your values are your non-negotiables. They determine who feels like “home” and who feels like a stranger. Examples include integrity, humor, kindness, depth, or curiosity. Note the values of your Magnetic Match here.

Values serve as both invitation and filter. When you weave them into your profile, the right people lean in — and the wrong people quietly step away.

Name your dealbreakers

Dealbreakers protect your time and energy. They save you from investing weeks in someone who was never a fit. Smoking, dishonesty, political misalignment, lack of availability — whatever your lines are, draw them. Stating them isn’t negative. It’s efficient.

Visualize your relationship

Don’t just say you want “a relationship.” Say what that means to you. Do you want daily companionship? Shared adventures? A family? Deep intellectual connection?

When you picture it clearly, you can express it clearly — and that attracts someone who shares your vision.

Open with warmth

Your first lines matter. They decide whether someone keeps reading. Begin with a vivid, authentic statement that conveys warmth. Instead of “I love to laugh,” try: “For me, life’s magic shows up in shared moments: cooking together, holding hands, or laughing ourselves silly.” It’s real, and it sets the tone.

Show, Don’t Tell

Anyone can say they’re adventurous. Few can tell a story that proves it. “I once backpacked across Europe and lived on a beach in Nueva” paints a picture. Images stick. Stories stick. Use them.

Add Advanced Touches

Profiles stand out when they go beyond the basics:

• Testimonials: A quote from a friend adds authenticity.
• Achievements: Not as bragging, but as conversation starters — the project you built, the art you made, the adventure you took.
• Invitation to connect: Close warmly. “If you value honesty and laughter, I’d love to hear from you.”

These touches give depth and make you memorable.

Examples: Writing for specific Myers-Briggs types

Most profiles fail because they’re written like résumés — lists of hobbies and clichés. To attract your Magnetic Match, you must highlight what matters most to them. Here are some examples:

Attracting an INFJ

• Meh: I love good food, long walks, and Netflix binges.
• Better: I believe life has to mean something. Some of my favorite nights have been deep conversations that stretched until sunrise.

Why it works: INFJs crave purpose and sincerity.

Attracting an INTJ

• Meh: I’m fun, spontaneous, and easygoing.
• Better: I’m drawn to big ideas and ambitious projects — whether that’s charting my next sailing trip or refining a recipe until it’s perfect.

Why it works: INTJs respect vision and mastery.

Attracting an ESFP

• Meh: I like to stay home most nights and keep things quiet.
• Better: I love turning an ordinary night into an adventure — live music, dancing, exploring a new corner of town.

Why it works: ESFPs are drawn to joy and connection.

Attracting an INFP

• Meh: Looking for a partner in crime. (Ugh. Gag me with a spoon)
• Better: I believe in real love — the kind where you can be fully yourself, dreams and all.

Why it works: INFPs resonate with authenticity and compassion.

Attracting an ENTP

• Meh: I’m serious and steady, looking for someone practical.
• Better: I love new ideas, big debates, and adventures that start with ‘what if.’

Why it works: ENTPs thrive on wit, challenge, and exploration.

Closing Thought

Your profile isn’t about appealing to everyone. It’s about calling out to the one type who lights you up. When you weave your values, vision and authentic stories into your profile — and shape them toward your Magnetic Match — you stop blending into the noise. You start resonating.

Write for them. And when they find you, they’ll recognize you instantly.