2) How to spot your MagneticMatch
Once I discovered my Magnetic Match was the INFJ type, I had instant, intense, and meaningful experiences with Corinne, Tammy, Vanessa, Pam, and Fiona — all within little more than a year.
Most people you see online won’t be your Magnetic Match — and that’s exactly how it should be. Here’s a quick, funny take on why that’s good news.
Which only confirmed what I now know for sure: Magnetic Match works.
Not only did I start attracting the right connections, I also stopped wasting time and money on people who were never going to resonate with me.
If you’d like to see exactly why I sought an INFJ, read why I wanted an INFJ — it shows what a Magnetic Match looks like to me.
Here’s how you can get the same results — no matter what your Myers-Briggs type is.
The process is simple: Identify the type that feels magnetic to you — then transform your profile, your messages, and your matches to attract them.
Before you choose, two caveats
- Your Magnetic Match is unlikely to be your own type. Read this story about Betty to see why. You’ll probably be drawn to someone who embodies qualities you long for — the parts of yourself that crave balance — the parts that you do not possess. That’s why your Magnetic Match feels so compelling: they light up something missing in you.
You may have heard of Dominant Cognitive Function. If not, no biggie. However, if you seek someone with the same Dominant Function as yours, read this story about using Dominant Cognitive Function as a shortcut. ’Nuff said
In my experience, most people who share the same MBTI type act in strikingly similar ways. That means when you focus on the types that feel magnetic to you — your Magnetic Matches — you’re not just narrowing your options — you’re dramatically increasing your odds if you take these steps.
Instead of gambling with random scrolling, you’re targeting a pattern. And people who fit that pattern are far more likely to resemble one another than anyone you’d stumble on by chance.
So scan the 16 types below. Ignore the four-letter codes and focus on what matters most to each type — and the people who epitomize these traits.
Select the type you feel drawn to — almost magnetically. Then read the in-depth description to confirm your choice.
Finally, click the link for “Romantic relationships” to see what happens when your type connects with theirs.
After you’ve confirmed your choice, you can begin transforming your profile, messages, and matches to find your person faster.
INTJ — Architect
What matters most to them: Vision • Strategy • Independence • Competence • Mastery
People who epitomize INTJs
- Hillary Clinton — strategic political mind
- Elon Musk — visionary entrepreneur
- Christopher Nolan — architect of layered stories
- Isaac Newton — methodical revolutionary thinker
- Ayn Rand — philosophical system-builder
- Michelle Obama — quiet strength with a long game
An in-depth look at INTJs
Romantic relationships with INTJs
INTP — Thinker
What matters most to them: Curiosity • Logic • Independence • Originality • Precision
People who epitomize INTPs
- Albert Einstein — playful thought-experiments, deep theorizing
- Bill Gates — systems thinker, builder of frameworks
- Søren Kierkegaard — philosophical innovator
- Tina Fey — sharp wit and meta-humor
- Larry Page — Google’s search algorithm visionary
- Abraham Lincoln — logic-driven, thoughtful statesman
An in-depth look at INTPs
Romantic relationships with INTPs
ENTJ — Commander
What matters most to them: Leadership • Vision • Efficiency • Results • Authority
People who epitomize ENTJs
- Margaret Thatcher — decisive and commanding presence
- Steve Jobs — uncompromising visionary leader
- Gordon Ramsay — direct, results-oriented
- Franklin D. Roosevelt — wartime strategist
- Sheryl Sandberg — Facebook corporate power player
- Jay-Z — business mogul + creative strategist
An in-depth look at ENTJs
Romantic relationship with an ENTJs
ENTP — Debater
What matters most to them: Ideas • Debate • Variety • Innovation • Playfulness
People who epitomize ENTPs
- Richard Feynman — playful, provocative genius
- Robin Williams — improvisational spark
- Mark Cuban — contrarian entrepreneur
- Socrates — relentless questioner
- Jon Stewart — sharp comedic challenger
- Amy Poehler — spontaneous, high-energy wit
An in-depth look at ENTPsRomantic relationship with an ENTPs
INFJ — Advocate
What matters most to them: Meaning • Integrity • Vision • Compassion • Depth
People who epitomize INFJs
- Carl Jung — depth psychology pioneer
- Nelson Mandela — reconciliation and justice seeker
- Mahatma Gandhi — moral vision and perseverance
- Oprah Winfrey — insight + empathy on a global stage
- J.K. Rowling — myth-weaver with moral compass
- Martin Luther King Jr. — dreamer of justice and unity
An in-depth look at INFJsRomantic relationships with INFJs
INFP — Mediator
What matters most to them: Authenticity • Idealism • Individuality • Depth • Compassion
People who epitomize INFPs
- William Shakespeare — poetic inner landscapes
- Audrey Hepburn — humanitarian spirit + grace
- Fred Rogers — deep empathy, child-focused
- Princess Diana — compassion + vulnerability
- John Lennon — idealistic visionary
- Tim Burton — whimsical, eccentric imagination
An in-depth look at INFPsRomantic relationship with an INFPs
ENFJ — Protagonist
What matters most to them: Connection • Leadership • Vision • Empathy • Growth
People who epitomize ENFJs
- Barack Obama — eloquent, inspiring leader
- Maya Angelou — wise, guiding voice
- Bono — activist + musician with global visiN
- Jennifer Lawrence — authentic connector
- Martin Sheen — idealistic leadership roles (and life)
- Emma Watson — feminist voice + global advocate
An in-depth look at ENFJs
Romantic relationship with ENFJs
ENFP — Campaigner
What matters most to them: Enthusiasm • Possibility • Freedom • Authenticity • Inspiration
People who epitomize ENFPs
- Martin Sheen — idealistic leadership roles (and life)
- Robin Williams — pure spark, boundless energy
- Walt Disney — imagination + enthusiasm
- Ellen DeGeneres — warmth + humor
- Quentin Tarantino — eclectic, energetic creativity
- Russell Brand — manic charisma + ideas
- Shailene Woodley — activist + free spirit
An in-depth look ENFPs
Romantic relationships with ENFPs
ISTJ — Inspector
What matters most to them: Duty • Stability • Responsibility • Order • Tradition
People who epitomize ISTJs
- George Washington — duty-bound, disciplined
- Angela Merkel — pragmatic stability
- Warren Buffett — methodical investor
- Natalie Portman — studious + deliberate
- Harry Truman — no-nonsense leader
- Anthony Hopkins — meticulous craft
An in-depth look at ISTJs
Romantic relationships with ISTJs
ISFJ — Nurturer
What matters most to them: Care • Responsibility • Loyalty • Service • Stability
People who epitomize ISFJs
- Mother Teresa — selfless service
- Queen Elizabeth II — constancy + duty
- Rosa Parks — quiet strength
- Halle Berry — grounded warmth
- Jimmy Carter — humanitarian persistence
- Kate Middleton — tradition + devotion
An in-depth look at ISFJsRomantic relationships with ISFJs
ESTJ — Executive
What matters most to them: Order • Leadership • Responsibility • Results • Duty
People who epitomize ESTJs
- Kate Middleton — tradition + devotion
- Lyndon B. Johnson — take-charge, decisive
- Judge Judy — blunt authority
- Martha Stewart — managerial precision
- Vince Lombardi — commanding coach
- Michelle Dockery — aristocratic ESTJ energy
- Harrison Ford — pragmatic, no-nonsense
An in-depth look at ESTJs
Romantic relationships with ESTJs
ESFJ — Provider
What matters most to them: Community • Care • Tradition • Belonging • Service
People who epitomize ESFJs
- Taylor Swift — harmony-builder with fans
- Bill Clinton — charismatic, people-oriented
- Barbara Walters — interviewer who draws people out
- Jennifer Garner — approachable + nurturing
- Pope Francis — warm, caretaker spirit
- Hugh Jackman — gracious host energy
An in-depth look at ESFJsRomantic relationships with ESFJs
ISTP — Virtuoso
What matters most to them: Independence • Skill • Adventure • Logic • Practicality
People who epitomize ISTPs
- Clint Eastwood — laconic, self-reliant
- Bruce Lee — martial artistry + focus
- Amelia Earhart — adventurous independence
- Steve Wozniak — hands-on inventor
- Scarlett Johansson — cool, detached presence
- Michael Jordan — physical mastery + composure
An in-depth look at ISTPs
Romantic relationships with ISTPs
ISFP — Adventurer
What matters most to them: Expression • Freedom • Aesthetics • Sensitivity • Individuality
People who epitomize ISFPs
- Bob Dylan — wandering soul, artistic freedom
- Britney Spears — expressive + impulsive
- Lana Del Rey — moody aesthetics
- The Edge — quiet artistry
- Frida Kahlo — self-expression through art + pain
- David Bowie — shapeshifting individuality
An in-depth look at ISFPs
Romantic relationships with ISFPs
ESTP — Dynamo
What matters most to them: Action • Risk • Impact • Excitement • Influence
People who epitomize ESTPs
- Donald Trump — bold, risk-taking showman
- Madonna — provocative + daring
- Mike Tyson — raw physical intensity
- Ernest Hemingway — thrill-seeking storyteller
- Eddie Murphy — high-energy performer
- Jack Nicholson — larger-than-life charisma
An in-depth look ESTPs
What a Romantic relationships with ESTPs
ESFP — Performer
What matters most to them: Fun • Expression • Connection • Energy • Charm
People who epitomize ESFPs
- Marilyn Monroe — magnetic + playful
- Elvis Presley — king of presence
- Jamie Oliver — enthusiastic, people-centered cook
- Miley Cyrus — expressive + wild
- Will Smith — entertainer, connector
- Kelly Clarkson — warm, bubbly performer